The following Creating a Safety Plan document was developed by The Peel Committee Against Women Abuse (PCAWA). A printable version of this document can be found here. This document was produced to help women to develop safety strategies for dealing with experiences of violence or the risk of violence. If you need support, please call us at 1-800-265-9175. If you are in immediate danger, please call 911.

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In creating a safety plan, it is important to remember that:

  • You are not to blame for the violence or for your children’s exposure to it.
  • You are not responsible for causing the violence.
  • You are not alone. There are resources available in the community to provide support (for example, counselling, crisis lines, housing, financial assistance, etc.).


If you are experiencing ongoing violence, you have already probably begun to work out ways that may reduce your risks. When we do this in an organized, systematic way, we call this ‘safety planning’, and this kind of ‘risk reduction’ is important whether we are in an ongoing violent situation or are planning to leave a violent situation. This guide shares some ways that you can manage risk or prepare to leave. We encourage survivors to discuss safety planning with a counsellor or social worker. Someone experienced in this kind of work can help you develop safety planning processes that are tailored for your unique situation.


Make a photocopy of the following documents or cards and store the copies in a safe place, away from originals. Hide the originals someplace else, if you can.

  • Passports, birth certificates, First Nations status cards, citizenship papers, immigration papers, permanent residency (PR) cards or citizenship cards, work permits, etc. for all family members
  • Driver’s license, vehicle registration, insurance papers
  • Health cards for yourself and all family members
  • Prescriptions, medical and vaccination records for all family members
  • School records
  • Any social assistance documentation (e.g., Ontario Works, Ontario Disability Support Program)
  • Marriage certificate, divorce papers, custody documentation, court orders, restraining orders, or other legal documents
  • Lease/rental agreement, house deed, mortgage payment book
  • Most recent Canada Income Tax Return
  • Bank statements
  • Address/telephone book
  • Photograph of the person(s) you are experiencing violence from
  • All cards you normally use, such as credit cards, bank cards, phone card, Social Insurance Number (SIN) card

Try to keep all the cards you normally use in your wallet or purse:

  • Credit cards
  • Phone card
  • Bank cards
  • Health cards
  • Identification (e.g., driver’s license, age of majority card, First Nations status card, etc.)


Try to keep your wallet and a bag handy, containing the following:

  • Keys for your home, car, workplace, safety deposit box, etc.
  • Chequebook, bankbooks or statements
  • Driver’s license, registration, insurance
  • Address/telephone book
  • Photograph of the abuser(s)
  • Emergency money (in cash) hidden away
  • Cell phone
  • Sanitizer or sanitizing wipes and face masks


Preparing an emergency bag containing immediate needs, or having a bag that you can pack quickly, can be helpful if you have somewhere safe to keep it. Keep the following items handy, so you can grab them quickly:

  • Medications
  • Special toys and/or comforts for your children
  • Items of special sentimental value
  • A list of other items to take if you get a chance to return to your home to collect more belongings later


Open a bank account in your own name and arrange that no bank statements be sent to you or calls be made to you. Try to direct mail to a trusted friend or family member, or set up an online banking account with paperless statements and notifications.

  • Plan your emergency exits, taking into consideration mobility and accessibility needs, as well as appropriate modes of transportation and how to arrange them (e.g., taxi, bus, TransHelp, Wheel-Trans, etc.).
  • Plan and rehearse the steps you will take if you have to leave quickly and learn them well.
  • Know the numbers of emergency shelters or organizations you can call for support/go to if you need.
  • Make arrangements to stay with friends or family if necessary.
  • When you leave your home, take the children if you can. If you try to get them later, the police cannot help you remove them from their other parent unless you have a valid court order.
  • Consider and take note of what triggers the abuser’s violence. This could help you predict the next likely violent incident and give you a chance to prepare.
  • Document abuse patterns and the date, time of abusive incidents, and all contacts with abuser. Provide resources to other family members who may be impacted or at risk of violence as well. 


  • If you have children, police involvement will likely result in the involvement of child protection services as well (e.g., Children’s Aid Society).
  • Police involvement can result in arrest, detainment and/or deportation if you are without legal status in Canada.
  • There is a chance you may be charged. This often occurs if the person(s) you experience violence from claims you have assaulted them, even if you acted in self-defence.
  • The police officer will provide you their name, badge number and telephone number for future contact and reference, upon request.
  • The police can escort you back to the home later to remove additional personal belongings, if this is arranged through the local police division. At this time, you can take the items listed above as well as anything else that is important to you or your children.
  • Police may charge the abuser(s). If this happens, find out if they will be held in custody or released. You can provide the investigating officer your input into release conditions. Ask for a copy of the conditions of release.
  • Keep a copy of your protection order near you at all times. Give a copy to the police in the community where you live, work or visit frequently. Inform your friends, colleagues, family, and/or neighbours that you have a protection order in place.
  • Should your protection order be lost or destroyed, you can obtain another copy from the Victim Witness Assistance Program. They can also assist you in preparing for court.
  • If the abuser(s) violates the protection order or if they threaten you in any way, you can call the police to report the violation.
  • Key things to identify to the police are: whether there has been a pattern of abuse, or whether the abuser owns or has access to weapons. If the police do not assist you, you can report the violation to the detachment commander of the local Ontario Provincial Police (OPP) or to the Chief of Police of the Police Service in the jurisdiction where the violation occurred.
  • Make sure that the school, daycare, and police have a copy of all court orders, including restraining orders or custody and access orders, as well as a photograph of the abuser.
  • Request that the police put a “premise history” of your address on file. This will provide additional information and security for officers responding to your call and alert them of a potentially hazardous history at the location.
  • Tell your neighbours if you would like them to call the police if they hear a fight or screaming in your home.
  • Teach your children how to contact the police by dialing 911.


Here are a few suggestions for safety planning for different situations you may experience:


  • Try to notice if there are any triggers for the violence. This can help you try to predict the next likely incident and give you a chance to prepare (i.e., by making plans for the children to be sent to friends/family in advance).
  • Use your judgement and intuition. If verbal self-defence is a possibility, you may consider pretending to agree with the person in order to calm them down so that you can buy yourself time to escape.
  • Try to move to a space where you think the risk is the lowest. Avoid areas without a clear exit path or where there could be a weapon at hand (e.g., kitchen, garage, basement).
  • Start to position yourself to get out quickly or near a phone so you can call a trusted friend or family member, or 911 if necessary.
  • Make as much noise as possible to draw attention to the situation (e.g., set off the fire alarm, yell “FIRE”, break things, break a window).
  • Use the code word you have created with your children so they can call for help.
  • Remind yourself that you have a list of items you have planned for and set aside. If you decide to call 911 (it is your choice), tell the operator you are being assaulted or have been assaulted and that it is an emergency. Do not hang up the phone if the violent incident is still occurring and you can no longer speak. Leave the phone line open or the phone off the hook.


  • Once you are in a safe place, you may want to seek medical attention for any physical injuries sustained during an assault.
  • If you choose to seek medical assistance, you can go to Trillium Health Partners’ Sexual Assault & Domestic Violence Services.
  • If you agree, a trained professional will examine you and collect evidence.
  • You do not have to decide right away if you will report to police. Try to keep the clothing you were wearing during the assault, unwashed and sealed in a bag, so you can provide them for use as evidence if you decide to pursue charges against the person who assaulted you.
  • It is helpful to Sexual Assault & Domestic Violence professionals when you do not bathe or shower after an assault so they can collect more physical evidence, but this is entirely your choice.


  • Try to notice if there are any triggers for the violence. This can help you try to predict the next likely incident and give you a chance to prepare.
  • Be aware of resources for support such as the nearest women’s shelter, Assaulted Women’s Helpline, family members, friends, counsellors, children’s friends, etc.
  • If you have call display on your phone, be careful who can access to stored numbers such as the last number you dialed or received a call from.
  • Check your vehicle for a Global Positioning System (GPS) which the abuser may have installed in or under your car to track your movements. If you find a device, consider seeking support to remove it or taking alternate forms of transportation.
  • Teach your children to use the telephone (and cell phone, if you have one) to call a safe person.
  • Teach your children how to make a collect call to you and to your safe person in case the abuser takes the children.
  • Create a code word with your children and/or family and friends so they know when to call for help.
  • Plan your emergency exits and teach them to your children.
  • Teach your children their own Safety Plan.
  • Consider a plan for the safety and wellbeing of your pet(s), such as making arrangements with friends or family to care for them if need be.
  • Be aware of any weapons in the home or the abuser’s access to weapons.
  • When using the computer, be aware that the abuser may track the websites you have visited. For information on hiding your tracks, review the section on Technology and Cyber-Violence.
  • Remind yourself that you have a list of items set aside and a plan.


  • ● Have a pre-recorded anonymous message on your telephone answering service rather than your own voice and do not identify yourself by name.
  • Consider installing a lighting system outside your home that lights up when a person is coming close to your house.
  • Meet in a public place to limit your isolation, if you have agreed to meet with the abuser(s). Make sure someone knows where you are and when to expect you to return.
  • Talk to a lawyer about getting supervised access or having access denied, if the abuser(s) has legal access to your children.
  • Arrange for transportation for your children so that you do not have to have contact with the abuser(s), if they have visitations with your children.
  • Use different grocery stores and shopping malls, and shop at hours that are different from when you were living with the abuser.
  • Do not put your name in your apartment building directory or mailbox.


You must decide for yourself if or when you will tell others that you are experiencing violence and that you may be at risk. Friends, family and co-workers may be able to support you. However, each woman should consider carefully which people to ask for help. If you are comfortable, you may choose to do any or all of the following:

  • Show a photograph of the abuser(s) and provide a description of their car to colleagues, neighbours, and building security personnel to make them aware of and alert to your safety needs.
  • Talk to your employer about Bill 168 Workplace Violence and Harassment legislation to determine what supports can be put in place to reduce your risk at work.
  • Ask to have your calls screened at work or use voicemail to screen your calls. Document any unwanted calls from the abuser(s).
  • Block unwanted emails or document them by sending them to a folder where you do not have to read them.
  • Alert a trusted neighbour about your situation and how they can support you in case of a violent incident.
  • Tell people who take care of your children, including schools and daycares, which people have permission to pick up your children.
  • Tell the school, daycare, babysitter, and people who have permission to pick up your children that the abuser(s) is not permitted to do so and ask that they not give your contact information to anyone.
  • Ask your neighbours to look after your children in an emergency.

When arriving at or leaving work or school:

  • Let someone know when you’ll be home and when to expect you to arrive at work, and that you will call them when you have safely arrived.
  • Consider carrying your keys in your hands so you are prepared to leave quickly or so that you can press the panic button to draw attention to yourself if you are in danger.
  • Walk with someone to your vehicle, if you drive.
  • Scan the parking lot when walking to your vehicle.
  • If the abuser is following you, drive to a place where there are people who may support you, (e.g., a gas station, the police station, etc.)
  • If problems occur while you are driving, use your cell phone, honk your horn continuously, and drive directly to a well-lit, open, populated place or your identified safe place.
  • Plan to take a route that is populated and well-lit.
  • Change the patterns of when you arrive and leave work, school, or other routine activities, and change the routes you take as much as possible.
  • If you see your abuser on the street, try to get to a public place such as a store or call attention to yourself and ask for help.
  • If you use public transit, you can choose to sit near the driver and have someone you know meet you at the bus stop to walk home with you. Consider changing your transit route if possible.
  • Once you have arrived home or to your destination, call a friend or relative to let them know you have arrived safely.


This section of the guide is designed to help survivors teach their children how to keep safe.

The most important thing for children is to get away from where violence is occurring. Although children often try to help stop a violent incident, it is important to tell children that the best and most important thing for them to do is to keep themselves safe.

Children exposed to Violence Against Women can be profoundly affected by it. It is very traumatic for them to be faced with violence directed at them or someone they love. Personal safety and safety planning are extremely important and necessary for children whose families are experiencing violence. Children should learn ways to protect themselves. Tell your children that their only job is to keep themselves safe.

There are several ways to help you develop a safety plan with your children:

  • The first step of any plan is for the children to get out of the room where violence is occurring.
  • Have your child pick a safe room/place in the house, preferably with a lock on the door and a phone.
  • Stress the importance of being safe, and that it is not the child’s responsibility to make sure their parent is safe.
  • Create a code word to use with your children so that they know when to run to safety and to call for help.
  • Teach your children how to call for help. It is important that children know they should not use a phone that is in view of the abuser, as doing so puts them at risk. Talk to your children about using a neighbour’s phone or payphone if they are unable to use a phone at home. Remember there is no cost for dialing 911 from a payphone or cell phone.
  • If you have a cell phone, teach your children how to use it.
  • Ensure that children know their full name and address (children living in rural areas need to know their Concession and Lot number).
  • Rehearse what your children will say when they call for help.
  • Pick a safe place to meet your children, out of the home, so you can easily find each other after the situation is safe.
  • Teach your children the safest route for them to take to the planned place of safety.
  • Practice and roleplay your safety plan with your children including what to do and where to go during a violent incident.
  • Have a discussion with your children about safety and their technological devices and social media accounts.



There are steps you can take to make it more difficult for someone to track your activities. However, an abuser (s) may still find ways of tracking your activities on devices.

If you are concerned about the safety of your home computer, it would be better to use a computer an abuser cannot access – for example, at a public library, a school, an internet café, or at the home of a trusted friend.

Here are some general safety tips regarding technology:

  • Change your passwords regularly and avoid writing them down.
  • Log out of computer profiles and social media accounts before leaving electronics unattended.
  • Be aware of which social media interactions and settings are public and familiarize yourself with privacy settings on the social media apps you use.
  • Check whether the abuser can access your phone’s incoming and outgoing call lists.
  • Check if any of your devices and social media accounts have a tracking application or location services enabled and visit the websites below for information on how to remove or disable any apps or accounts that can track or display your location.
  • Avoid posting any current whereabouts or check-ins.

If you are experiencing cyber-violence and online harassment, keep a record of any harassing or unwanted communications to you or anyone you know. Document any content found online by taking screenshots to capture the image and any information posted with it, including full email headers which may contain Internet Protocol (IP) addresses. Also, keep a record of the addresses/URLs of the sites, and save all original emails or messages if possible.

There are a few easy ways for someone to find out what websites you have visited:

Computers have what is called a cache file. The cache automatically saves webpages and graphics. Anyone who looks at the cache file on your computer can see your browsing history, showing what information you have looked up and viewed recently on the internet.

Also, most web browsers (the software on your computer that lets you search the internet and display internet pages, e.g., Internet Explorer, Safari, Firefox or Google Chrome) keep a list of the most recent websites and links visited in a ‘history’ file. You can look at your browser’s history by clicking on the ‘history’ button on your toolbar.

While it is possible to clear the cache and history files so that your computer doesn’t keep a list of the sites visited, you may want to be cautious about doing this.

If the abuser(s) is very comfortable with computers and sees you have cleared all the cache and history files on your computer (including the sites they have visited), they could become suspicious or angry.

You can use your web browser anonymously or in ‘private mode’. Visit the following website for detailed instructions:

If you do decide to clear your browser history, visit the following website for detailed instructions:

For more detailed instructions to help you hide your digital activities, visit:


There are steps you can take to make it more difficult for someone to track your social media activities, however the abuser may still find ways of tracking your activities through your social media accounts. If the abuser knows a lot about social media platforms, it might be better for you to use an anonymous account/name and change all your social media passwords and security questions to something the abuser does not know.

Cyber-violence is an increasingly common form of violence that survivors are experiencing. Types of cyber-violence you may experience include: hacking, surveillance/tracking, impersonating, spamming, malicious distribution, etc.

For any social media platform you use, check the privacy settings to find out ways to limit who sees your posts, photographs, etc. or learn how to block, remove and report someone. You may also need to have a conversation with people you are close to about the photographs or information they share online, in case people in your networks post anything that identifies your location or routines or gives away any information that can put you at risk.

To find more information on cyber-violence and harassment, including ‘smart’ homes, safer use of social media apps, and ways to increase your online safety, visit the links provided below. Because technology develops quickly, it is important to check recent, reliable sources like some of the websites suggested here.

Depending on the age of any child or children involved, conversations about online safety and careful review of any apps on their phones or devices may also be necessary:

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